Boyfriends are not the easiest creatures to please. After some time into a relationship, things tend to go a little stale. He starts to appear bored with you and you notice that you are spending less and less time together. Ask yourself these questions:
• Does my boyfriend seem bored with me?
• Does it seem like he takes me for granted?
• Is his phone sometimes switched off when I try calling him?
• Does he avoid spending as much time with me as he used to?
• Are we arguing more often than we ever did?
• Is he critical or “picky” about the things I do?
Am I losing my self esteem and letting myself go?
Is the television my daily companion?
Am I constantly depressed?
If you answered yes to more than half of these questions, then we do have a problem. He is slowly drifting away from you, probably feeling bored with the relationship. Chances are that it won’t be long before he starts dating other girls.
This does not need to happen and there IS a way to turn things around in your favor. I have outlined 7 steps you can use to not only get more attention from your boyfriend, but he will literally call you up and follow you around more than he ever did before.
1) Break Out Of Your Usual Routine.
We first need to rid you of the lethargy or apathy that depression seems to create. While we are still at day “0” the whole thing may seem impossible, but it does get easier with time. After all, your long term health is at stake. Take a long hot shower, put on your best outfit and go for a long walk or drive. Try and think things through objectively.
2) Being With Friends
Start catching up with old friends. Go out more. Don’t stay at home watching endless television sitcoms or, worse still, playing music that makes you cry. Pick up that phone and start dialing numbers. Get one or two of your best friends together and go out for a drink or walk or anything that looks like being fun. An injection of fun is always a good tonic for depression.
3) Treat Yourself
Book a seat for one in the nicest restaurant you know and treat yourself to a great meal. Enjoy every moment of it. Alternatively, go out and buy a new outfit, get your hair styled and add a new perfume to your collection. Let him see you like he’s never seen you before.
4) Let Him See You Happy And Smiling
No matter how depressed you are feeling, don’t show your true feelings. Act like you couldn’t be happier. Have music going in the background whenever he’s around and sing along to your favorite tunes. He needs to know that your world does not revolve around him
5) Physical Fitness
As the saying goes, “A sound body makes for a sound mind.” Join a gym, take up jogging, bicycle riding or join a club playing your favorite sport. You will be amazed how much confidence and self-assuredness you can build up as you get physically fitter. Imagine the look on his face when he sees how taut and lean you have become.
6) Hold Your Head High
You are probably the best thing that has ever happened to him and he takes you for granted. When you are around him let him feel your self-confidence. Show him that he is not the be all and end all of your life. While you still show him that you love him and care for him, you will not take his crap.
7) Be Yourself
This is who I am, like it or lump it. Strive for equality in your relationship. Neither try to be his little patsy nor be too “bossy” with him. Treat him the way you like to be treated and let him know that you wish to be treated the same. There is nothing more difficult than an unfair relationship.
Try out these steps and you will soon find he is re-attracted to you. He will find you sexier and your relationship will become a lot healthier.
Love, Laura
