Did your relationship with your ex deteriorate slowly or did it suddenly end with a bang? Do you rack your brain day and night trying to figure out why your ex left you? Are you constantly plagued by the prospect of finding yourself alone and very lonely? Do you hate your ex for leaving you?
The connection two people create within a relationship is often plagued by insecurities, doubts and uncertainties. The truth is, a relationship between two people is like a living, breathing being that needs feeding and nurturing. Ignore it and it eventually starves to death. Break ups happen and that’s the reality of life. It’s painful, often debilitating, it brings on depression, anxiety, anger and even a lust for revenge. If you were involved in a relationship that ended recently, all these feelings are leaving you feeling raw. You are probably thinking of ways to get back at your ex, make them pay for the pain and suffering they have caused you. But is getting back at your ex really the way to go? Think long and hard. Do you really want your ex to suffer? Remember, this is the person you once loved dearly. In fact, you have probably discovered that you love them even more now than ever before. Like the saying goes, “You don’t know what you have until you lose it.” Back to the key question: “Is getting back at your ex really what you want?”
Your instinct right now is probably to find your ex and beg for forgiveness and make any promise as long as your ex gets back together with you. Or instead, you are plotting and scheming of ways to make your ex pay for ditching you. Believe it or not, these are two of the worst things you can do. There is a way, another way which is deviously clever yet as simple as anything. A set of tried and true steps which can actually help you kill two birds with one stone. Follow these steps to a tee and you will find yourself in a very enviable position. You can GET BACK AT YOUR EX AND GET YOUR EX BACK.
That is an unbeatable, once in a lifetime deal, handed to you right here, right now on a silver platter. Just read and follow these steps carefully, then sit back and enjoy the results.
1 – Strength Of Character You are not going to win friends and influence people by playing the sore loser. You will never gain valuable ground by showing desperation, trying to cling on or by chasing contact with your ex. LET IT GO! At least for a while. Others, including your ex, will gain respect for you by knowing that you are defiantly going it alone. No whinging, no begging, no stalking, and no trying to hang on to what’s gone. Move on, move away and your ex will wonder why you could let go so easily.
2 - Cut All Contact With Your Ex. You are probably saying, “Why should I cut contact. I want to get back with my ex, not drift further apart. Well, there are two and a half reasons for this.
a) You need time out to reassess your life and situation and you can only do this successfully without interference from your ex.
b) Respect your ex and give her the same deal.
b+) Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
3 – Be An Ever Ready Ally If your ex needs to talk, comes to pick up their things or if you have any future contact with your ex following the breakup, DO NOT use these moments to discuss your broken relationship. Be a listener but don’t offer an opinion. Sympathise with your ex, even help them resettle or watever it takes to show you have no hard feelings. That’s life, we are still friends. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be impressed by your mature attitude and learn to see you as a rock and not a wimp.
4 – Socialize More Than You Ever Have Before Get yourself out and about. Catch up with old friends, take up golf, join a bowling club, fishing club, try archery, or any other interest that brings you together with other like minded people. It’s not necessary to start dating or even to get involved with the opposite sex. In fact, it’s best if you don’t. While you still feel the emptiness or that hollow feeling your partner once foccupied, try to think of other ways to fill this void. Not only will you become a stronger person, you will also feel your self esteem growing. If word gets around to your ex, she will soon learn to regret what she lost.
5 – Simply Be Yourself. You got together with your ex in the first place because she liked you for being you. Somewhere along the way you lost track of who you really are. This is the price we sometimes pay when we are smitten with love. Our personality slowly changes as do our habits. Re-learn to dress, talk, walk, act and be the person she once loved. Your ex will begin to miss you, remembering more about who you where rather than what caused the bust up.
These are 5 things you should practice if you want to be reunited with your ex.
Until next time,
Love from Laura.
