There is no single, easy answer for getting over someone you love. Regardless of the direction you take, you are going to find that getting over someone you love is not going to happen quickly, nor is there a a secret remedy or magic potion to help you do this.
Even as the months, even years slip by, this person will, to some degree and depending on the level of love you felt, there will always be a constant reminder of the life you spent together. The more intense the emotions and passion felt during the relationship, the more intense will be the pain and sadness felt.
Well, that’s the bad news and now for some helpful good old fashioned advice. In time you will start to realise that it was only the loss that caused the pain. The feeling of having suffered a loss is always a painful experience, but more intense in its early days. In time this pain will fade away, but the secret to speeding up this process is really quite simple. Fill the void.
This may sound like it is easier said than done, but it is quite common. Unfortunately many of us fill the void with something negative like alcohol, drugs, overeating and such. Others find religion or take a round the world trip to get away from everything. The thing is, you should find something positive with which to fill the void. It should be something you normally enjoy doing, something that can engross you and even get you out and about.
One thing you should not do is to get involved in another relationship without some time out. In the early days during a break-up this is usually the worst thing you can do, even if it seems the quickest and best solution at the time. This can only set you up for another fall you really could not handle right now.
Another thing you can do is rid yourself of any reminders of your relationship. Things like photographs, gifts and memorabilia you collected together, songs you were connected to and anything that can drag you down should be, at least temporarily, shelved. Don’t even visit your old haunts. Try to begin fresh.
Friends and family may seem like an ideal shoulder to cry on and may even offer some good advice, but there is also the risk that they may try to involve you in a new relationship or give you advice that is tarnished with bias. The best people to speak openly with, believe it or not, are strangers. Obviously the best of these is a qualified counsellor. If you feel the pain is too intense, try some professional counselling. There is nothing shameful about this and it’s good to remember that these people are trained to exactly deal with these kinds of situations.
In summing up, the key points are:
Fill the void and move on as soon as possible,
Change your habits and lifestyle,
Get rid of painful reminders,
Get Some professional help.
Truly hoping I have helped and wishing you the best for the future. Please feel free to contact me anytime. I will answer you personally and give you the best advice I can.
Love, Laura
However his methods bring results. They bring couples back together again, ex’s re-united, lovers knots re-tied. What difference does a person’s character make when they have mastered such an art? He restores long lost smiles and that’s all that really matters.